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Question by x9hotlilangel1x: how do u tell my mom that is is a drunk and how can i get help for her??
my mom is a drunk and she gets on my nerves u just want to get her help so she can be more of a mother i mean i live in lasing il so if u can help me plz do

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Answer by jigsawinc
Look in your phone book or on the web for your local Alcoholics Anonymous group. They have knowledge in this area. Good luck!

Answer by thejester
First of all ask your mother to go a week without a drink.

If she doesn’t want to, or doesn’t like the idea, then she has an alcohol dependancy problem. That doesn’t mean she is a “drunk” but it does mean that she needs some sort of help.

Don’t put it in derogotory terms, she needs help and understanding, but so do you. Explain to her that her drinking makes her into another person who you don’t like nearly as much as the real person who you miss dearly.

Use the week rule. If she laughs at the idea, then tell her that she is in denial. If she isn’t alcohol dependant then a week is no problem.

If she does go a week, talk to her about it and ask her to be honest with herself about how she found the week. Ask her if she could manage drinking just one night a week and to count her alcohol units…

Good Luck

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Question by : Can the uninsured and unemployed go to alcohol rehab too?
Ok, I am 20 years old now and I am no longer in denial of being an alcoholic. I realize it now. My life is so messed up and I want to change before things get even worse. The only problem is that now I am jobless again due to my alcoholism and I am close to broke. Do rehabs accept people with no insurance or a job even? Thank you…..

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Answer by Nina
Dear One, Congratulations on your epiphany!!! You will have a great life being sober. I know of only one place to go and that is Salvation Army. They help you in every way possible. Be open, willing and honest, and all will be given to you. I am so proud of you! Take good care.

Answer by Nigam
You know my name, I am an alcoholic. I have been sober for over 9 years. When I was in Chicago, what happened to you, happened to me. I went to the South Suburban Center for Alcoholism and Substance Abuse. They did not require money or for me to be employed.Their only requirement, in a manner of speaking, was that I had admitted to myself that I was an alcoholic, that my goal was to become sober,and then remain sober. It was a very good rehabilitation center. Now, the U.S. is a huge country. I don’t know where you live. I am sure you can find a rehabilitation center which understands your difficulties. The way to go about finding this out is:
1. Contact Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) on their toll free number.
2. If you are willing to, go to AA meetings.
3. Please do not think that I am even remotely suggesting that you are “crazy”, but the local or community mental health centers can be sometimes a big help.
4. If you cannot travel anywhere for lack of funds, do ask yourself this question: “Can I become sober without going to a rehabilitation center?” My answer would be:”Yes, you most certainly can.” It is good to be with people who have the same problem as we do, but is not a requirement. That is of course my opinion.
5. Last suggestion, go to the website: www.about.com, choose Alcoholism, go to chat rooms. They are decent people. You will not feel uncomfortable chatting with them, asking questions and so on.
You already taken the first step according to AA, which is admitting. You have courage. You WILL make it. Take it one day at a time. If you are a believer, God bless you, if not ignore me.
The reason I am doing this is because in atleast some ways I owe my sobriety to some exceptional people from AA. I always remember that, as a result I would like to help anyone who asks for help, even though I am some 10,000 miles away from you, in India.

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Question by karen star: How would “reconciliation” work in the current health care debate?
I have read about filibuster, and recall some filibusters from days past, the gang of 14, and so on, but can someone explain this in simple terms for me? (Wiki articles were not particularly helpful, so just a clear explanation will be good.) I’m not looking for partisan bickering, but for simple direct explanation of the process. Thanks, in advance, for civility.

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Answer by titou
How about “rehabilitation”? After all, the requisite for any recovery is first admitting that there is a real problem. To hear the politicians and insurance companies, as well as some health-care professionals who know which side their bread is buttered on — you’d think that what is called for in the catastrophic US health-care industry (sic) is just some fine tuning. As someone experienced with the phenomenon, I can tell you it rings like an alcoholic explaining and adjusting his drinking habit. I’ve even heard the claim that “We have the best health care in the world.”!
Right. And my drinking is OK because it’s top shelf.

ENOUGH verbiage and self-promotion in the guise of negotiation. This sophomoric nonsense has led too often to the logical conclusion: “The operation was a success, but the patient died.” No exaggeration: that is exactly what happened to my own mother. Diagnosed with Stage 3 metastatic breast cancer, such was the juggernaut of bureaucratic red-tape and protocol (not to mention physicians and hospitals lining their pockets and covering their own asses) that by the time anyone got around to actually helping her, she was dead.

Answer by nunya
Fillibuster means bust your wallet and your bank account.

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Question by Shabu Shabu: Do I have to be in Drug Counselling my whole life?
45 years ago my dad let me take a sip of his beer. About 8 years ago the government found out.

I have been in Court-Ordered Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous classes ever since. I’ve never tried drugs, and have not had beer since that incident in the 1960’s! I’m a coffee drinker and a book worm. Alcohol makes you stupid and I never drank it.

These classes are really annoying. I have to take 24 hours of classes a week. Three for each, three times a week, and half-time on weekends. Everything I do, I am accused of “relapsing” and getting put back in a hospital or jail! My “sponsor” is a crack-head and thinks anytime I do ANYTHING it’s because of my “addiction” or my “disease”.

A “disease” I got as a kid, that sadly, there is no cure for. No pill to cure.

I am also forced to do 2-4 prayers to Jesus at every meeting. Even though I am not Christian. I was told “Your higher power can be anything you want. Even an ashtray if you want, but Jesus is the highest Power!”

This is all really distressing me and my life to where I’m starting to seriously think about drinking! Will I have to take these classes forever?? Or can I somehow get my life back? Shouldn’t my dad be responsible for giving me alcohol? It’s not my fault! I don’t feel diseased. But they say that’s the denial of the illness talking….

Any advice? Thank you…

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Answer by Mollie
Is this a joke? There is no place on earth the government would require someone to pray to Jesus.

Answer by D
Mollie, it’s no joke. Court programs routinely require people to attend AA/NA meetings, which are self-described “spiritual, not religious” despite being based on Christian ritual, prayer, and dogma.
Larger cities have been fought by enough attorneys that they automatically acquiesce on the issue.

When gently pushed on the issue, my little town allowed me secular alternatives.

Tiffany, I’ve been in a court ordered program, but my irresponsibility is what put me there. Man was I mad, and initially struggled in outrage over the matter. It only made matters more difficult.

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Question by Alexis: How do you know when you’re addicted?
My boyfriend says hes addicted to cigarettes. He says hes tried to quit, but he can’t. I think it is a bunch of bullsh*t. I know that if I really wanted to stop something I could in a heartbeat. So, my question is, how do you know when you become addicted and I just don’t understand why you can’t just stop smoking?

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Answer by tigertiger_ca
if you can’t stop….you’re addicted. Period.

Answer by tink_mcd
If you’ve never been genuinely addicted to something, it’s probably hard to imagine what it’s like. I can see how you might imagine that it’s not even possible.

Still, there’s pretty solid evidence, as far as I know, that certain substances are addictive–and certainly the nicotine in cigarettes is considered to be highly addictive.

When someone is addicted to something, they experience physical “withdrawal” symptoms when they don’t take in enough of that substance.

However, many, many addicts have successfully quit using the substance they were addicted to, whether it was alcohol, nicotine, or some other drug. “I’m an addict” isn’t an excuse not to quit–it’s a reason to seek help and support in quitting. Some get that help from medical caregivers (doctors, psychiatrists) and prescribed medications such as a nicotine patch, Wellbutrin (an anti-depressant that has a good reputation for helping people quit smoking as well), or Antabuse (which makes people throw up when they ingest alcohol). Others find support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous helpful. For really serious and persistent addictions that are having profoundly negative effects on a person’s life, some people find that they need to go through a residential rehabilitation (“rehab”) program.

If your boyfriend truly *wants* to quit, encourage him to explore the different kinds of help available. Be aware, though, that even people who are highly motivated to quit smoking (because, for example, they’ve been diagnosed with emphysema or lung cancer) can still have a very hard time doing so. Some of the ex-smokers I know tried several times before finally managing to quit. And some people who have successfully stopped using an addictive substance never stop craving it: they have to be constantly vigiliant about their behaviour, lest they “fall off the wagon.” That’s why many refer to themselves for the rest of their lives as “a recovering addict” rather than “a former addict.”

Hope this helps you understand and support your boyfriend in any efforts he makes to quit. Even if he doesn’t quit, for your own health you can make a firm rule that he must not smoke in your presence or in any enclosed space (e.g., a home or car) that you share. If he won’t respect that, then I’d question whether he really cares about you. Just as another person’s right to swing his fist ends where my nose begins, I believe that another person’s right to smoke ends where my lungs begin.