by Phil Roeder

Question by Katie: How can you forgive someone who is not sorry for wronging you?
I have been hurt someone and they are not sorry for what they’ve done. I have tried to communicate with this person and they won’t apologize to me, and said “they’re mad” at me. I did not do anything, this person hurt me.

This person will admit to my friends that he was wrong, but won’t admit to me he was wrong. How can we reconcile this, i think its hopeless. I’ve tried to communicate with this person but I get the “silent treatment”.

Best answer:

Answer by Legandivori
Thje person is correct in that that person wants to hurt you and it is working. The best way is to forbive yourself for spending a lot of time trying to change someone from their destructive ways.

Answer by ptw1701
It’s not always easy, but in time you might find it in your heart to forgive this person for whatever he/she did. The reason this person will admit fault to others instead of you is because he/she may feel guilty. For some, its easier to admit fault to others than to admit it to the person that’s been hurt face to face.

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